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The downside of being open.....
Posted on June 16th, 2009 at 6:15pm
I'm sure some of you are aware that I deleted a few posts today and I believe I should explain why:
The relationship between fans/admirers/friends and a person who is in the public eye (in this case by making music) is always going to be a weird one. I have done my utmost to be open and civil but the fact is, and please don't take this badly, my friends and family will always be more important to me and I sincerely hope that you will always pick your's over music.
The reason I drew the line today is this: if someone decides to send e-mails to me abusing me when they've only met me once then I have to consider that a touch unbalanced. When they use language that I wouldn't expect or tolerate from my own family or close friends then it's time to say goodbye.
I do this for two reasons. One, I'm too old to play attention games more suited to my seven year old daughter. Two, as I tell my kids every time a situation like this occurs - just walk away, it's not worth it and life's too short. I can only hope that a person who has met me once will heed that fatherly advice.
I am, and always will be, open to constructive criticism and am happy to discuss opposing viewpoints. There are people that I've disagreed with and I'd like to believe they respect my opposing viewpoint as I respect theirs. If it deteriorates into name calling and pure attention seeking, then I for one will heed my own advice and just walk away.
Respectfully yours
Papa S.
Comments
Posted by Allison on Monday, June 29, 2009 - 11:46.
My two big brothers were little in the 80's, and we have precious tapes of them dancing and singing to MJ's Thriller, Billie Jean, and Beat It. They were 7 and 4, and had all the moves down pat! They even had little orange sweaters, and the 4 yr old wore one mitten instead of a glove!!! Too cute! He even had an MJ doll! (still got it!) I wish I could have been there too, when he was huge and more normal...but when I was a kid, he was already on to the "Black or White" era. Still good though :)
Posted by Celeste on Saturday, June 27, 2009 - 20:08.
I remember almost every kid at my school had a Michael Jackson jacket. I remember that I wanted a Michael Jackson jacket so badly but my mother could never afford it. My dad got me a yellow Michael Jackson t-shirt from one of the t-shirt stores in Kensington Market. I was so pleased and I wore it to school until it got to be too small for me and then I gave it to my brother.
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Posted by aardvark on Saturday, June 27, 2009 - 17:03.
I (like a cunubrum of others) was devasted by the passing of Michael Jackson; I had no idea at the time (in 1983) that his music had such an impact on sustaining me as I was going through a very difficult time with my mother's illness ( my mother passed away in 1985). I knew at the time that he was incredible popular, but at the time I wanted to be seen as different- so therefore I was much more interested in Tears For Fears and other artists of that elk( who at that time were considered intellectual and nerdy). As dance was my first love, and now looking back at his videos I feel that is his ultimate legacy.
The aardvark
Posted by kimberlycass on Friday, June 26, 2009 - 11:06.
Happy Belated Birthday Curt
I'm shocked and saddened to by Michael Jackson's death and also Farrah's death. May they both rest in peace.
"All our love and all our of pain
Will be but a tune
The Sun and the Moon
The wind and the rain
Hand in hand we'll do and die
Listening to the band that made us cry
We'll have nothing to lose
We'll have nothing to gain
Just to stay this real life situation
For one last refrain "
~Famous Last Words
~Kim
Curt's KOOK
Posted by TFFforever on Friday, June 26, 2009 - 09:04.
MJ is one of my fave singers, love his voice and his songs....from his early songs like "Ben," "Off The Wall" and his very touching song "Childhood" which pretty much is about his life. Unfortunately fame can change people, his death is a reminder that life is too short and precious....to take care of our health and to spend as much as time as we can with our loved ones. I'm sad as he died before his performance in London, to be able to do what he loved and did best....perform for his fans :'(
Rosalie
Posted by ritienne 17 on Friday, June 26, 2009 - 05:40.
So Michael Jackson's gone.he was ill equipped to cope with fame especially since success came when he was very young.he never had a proper childhood and was probably trying to recreate it in his adulthood.I remember trying to learn his dance moves at the end of the Beat It video,when i was eight RIP
Posted by Daniella on Friday, June 26, 2009 - 00:49.
It's really sad about Michael Jackson. Aside from his personal life , he was an amazing artist and performer, we were lucky enough to see him in Sheffield about 13yrs ago and it was just fantastic.
He'll be sadly missed.
Daniella
Posted by IdeasAsOpiates on Thursday, June 25, 2009 - 17:29.
So, today brings the news that Michael Jackson has passed away. While not one of my favorite artists - the talent he had was undeniable, but he did not seem to be able to be part of the real world.
Curt , to take advantage on the upside of your being open - do you have any thoughts on his as an artist/Musician? It would be interesting to hear your take on him.
Though easy it may seem, may we always dare to dream.
Posted by jgoddard on Thursday, June 25, 2009 - 16:58.
Curt:
It has been so nice that you have been so open to all of us. With your line of work it is unfortunate that it has to be put on display in the public eye therefore putting you in the public eye. I hope those comments that were posted don't spoil it for the rest of us that appreciate your willingness to be so open and connect with us. The updates, family photos, and comments show us all that you are "human". I think I can speak for most all of your "on-line" friends that we would never cross the fine line into your personal life or post such awful things. Keep up all of the great work and happy belated birthday.
Posted by Celeste on Wednesday, June 24, 2009 - 08:56.
:) It's okay Daniella. Don't beat yourself up over it.
Celeste.
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Posted by Daniella on Wednesday, June 24, 2009 - 01:46.
Oh that's my fault!!!
I was in London and got all mixed up with the dates !!( You know how they get all mixed up with dates and times in London ?! ahem! ) Stupid kook!!
Errrm yes... HAPPY BIRTHDAY PAPA S. !! for today ... your birthday!! hahaha!!
Have a great day !! (again!) :o)
Daniella ( embarrassed kook)
EZEZEZ.
Posted by Celeste on Monday, June 22, 2009 - 21:15.
Yes it is but the party got started a little bit early this year. Only one day left til the age jokes commence. ;)
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Posted by Celeste on Monday, June 22, 2009 - 18:56.
Without the heart there can be no understanding between the hand and the mind.
--Madonna
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Posted by Celeste on Monday, June 22, 2009 - 16:38.
Thank you Carolyn.
Oh and I've got a little something uploaded on to You Tube for Papa S's birthday that I whipped up for him early last week. But I won't send the link until tomorrow night. All I can say about it is that I hope it doesn't embarrass him too much since one of the songs that I chose isn't one of his favourites.
Happy Birthday Curt. You're a really decent bloke. :)
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Posted by Celeste on Monday, June 22, 2009 - 15:45.
I wondered why someone was taking out his/her frustration on me? Now I know why. I was scared to read the rest of the message because I saw it as a threat but now I'm over it. I'd take that this is someone that Curt has dealt with before?
I'm just dumbfounded that someone would take something I said about Curt so goddamned seriously. Really I only connect with Curt through his music and through TFF's music. That's it. He's not a godlike figure to me in any way at all. He's just a musician that I happen to like and have liked since I was 9 years old. I do have a life outside of my computer, thanks to my mom and my grandpa, and that's the way it is. This person seems to be a bit phsychotic and may think that Curt is theirs and only theirs.
I may not have met Curt in the flesh but I know that he's there and I know that he's a real person but this person, I think, can't differentiate between the internet world and the real world.
That's what I like about Curt. He's very open and very easy to talk to. I hate to admit it but when I first came to this site I was a little bit afraid of Curt for some unknown reason, maybe because I was a little bit shy to talk to him, but now that I've been here for 28, almost 29, weeks it just seems like Curt is a fun person to be around.
I don't really give a s--t what people think of me? I just would like for people to know how I feel about both Curt, and TFF. If that makes people feel inadaquate then: oh well! So sad. Too bad.
Celeste.
P.S.
Don't worry about people chasing me away. I have never let anybody chase me away from anywhere and I never will let anybody chase me away from anywhere. And especially I won't be chased away from people who I consider to be my friends. :)
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Posted by envertigo on Monday, June 22, 2009 - 08:20.
"It was from someone who said they were speaking on behalf of Katy and Claire. Saying that I should "watch what I say" and that I shouldn't "repeat things that other people don't like." They've met Curt twice and that he "grossly exaggerated everything in his blog."
Speaking on behalf of Katy and Claire? ...or speaking as Katy and Claire. Sorry, but she's already admitted to having at least one sock puppet here already, and nothing's more amusing than watching someone talk to themselves. But seeing those threats come up more than once, worded the same way, to regular members of this site, right after the meltdown here, ...yeah. Don't let it get to you Celeste. And absolutely don't leave. It's not worth letting people chase you away. I have a tiny little feeling the "friend of Katy's" is none other than the "fan" herself. Wasn't aware that meeting someone twice and briefly at that gave one license to behave like a callous harpy.
The sense of entitlement that some "fans" develop is astonishing. It always gets worse during the tours. Crazies always seem to surface as the concerts get closer... like one in particular who was genuinely pissed that the guys weren't going to show up in their virtual backyard when reasons were given time and again as to why the locations were chosen on the west coast. If you're still being harassed, contact Facebook and let them know. This "person's" behavior, whether it's the puppet or the puppeteer, is getting beyond creepy at this point.
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